I idea I might start telling you a little flake well-nigh my situation with MM. This can't be covered in one blog and many of you lot will think why did you let this keep for so long, and believe me I ask myself the aforementioned question.

Trivial did I know he had already done this xxx years ago!!!

It all started simply over 3 years ago. I continued with a guy, online of grade, where else do all these people come up from? It was Easter time and this guy approached me and I initially idea what an idiot he's got a photo that was more side on then I couldn't meet him properly simply nevertheless he didn't look too bad from what I could tell, he kind of looked like Glenn Ridge (for those of you who are in my age bracket would call up him as one of the hosts of Auction of the Century, for the younger readers well permit'southward just say us old fogies know! LOL).

Anyway, it was a Sabbatum dark when he contacted me. I distinctly remembered as the next day was Easter Sunday and I was going over to my cousins identify for lunch so I was telling her and showing her his movie. I didn't terminate up receiving some other bulletin until the Tuesday morning where he promptly asked for my phone number, the next thing I know the phone is ringing and it's him calling to inquire what I was doing that day. Equally it turns out I had that week off work, I explained to him that I was getting some quotes done and I wasn't free, he was very friendly and easy going and he said that I could reschedule. I told him that he would merely accept to have the style I was looking every bit I had already had a shower but hadn't done my hair and and then on he wasn't worried about all that, he was keen to meet me. I was due to meet him at 3pm at a local hotel as he had a 2pm engagement and would be gratis later on that and didn't have whatever further clients that day.

I arrived start, information technology's a nice hotel with comfortable chairs in the lounge expanse. He messages me to say he'south just arrived and he was on time. So as I sit there I see this gorgeous, tall, well dressed guy approach me and I call up to myself, well this ane looks a whole lot better in person. He sits downwards with his long legs outstretched and we immediately start chatting and for me it's similar I have known this guy all my life. For me at least in that location's an instant chemistry and equally all of u.s. know that is extremely rare and for nearly of usa we never get to experience that feeling. I think we talked for at to the lowest degree one-half an hour earlier he offers to purchase me a drink as the time just flew past. I child you not when he walked away I looked upwardly to the Universe and said 'thank you' I truly felt that my search was potentially over once and for all and that I was at the beginning of my terminal dating nightmare.

Little did I know at that time it was only the beginning of a nightmare that I accept only only moved on from.

Getting back to the original date. This engagement went from drinks, to dinner, it went on for x hours, and so you tin imagine there was connection, attraction, I just couldn't look to run into him again and I genuinely believed he wasn't faking it and was interested in me also.

I asked him how long he'd been divorced equally his profile said that he was divorced and his profile name was 'looking to the future', he had his real proper noun on the profile and he has 3 grown up kids this also is the truth and he works in IT too the truth. Conspicuously this guy is a novice when it comes to the lying function of advertising he's divorced and creating profiles on dating sites.

He tells me it's coming upwards five years and he tells me that if my name had been (the proper name of his 'ex' wife) then he wouldn't of agreed to meet me equally he explained in no uncertain words that she'south 'a nutter', she has some serious mental health issues. Simply I won't go into that besides much yous become the idea.

The adjacent time I saw him was the Lord's day dark, he came over to my place and we enjoyed a platter and wine and of class some intimacy, information technology for me was and then piece of cake to exist in his visitor and I was so attracted to him. Win/win situation I think, I realise now it was far likewise early on to be reading too much into information technology, just I had already been on the dating merry go round for some time and it had been a long fourth dimension since I felt like this, simply this fourth dimension information technology felt different from the other times I thought I had met someone important. This guy was different……

A few weeks ago I was looking through my local customs facebook group when I saw someone put up a post about getting fit by swimming. Yous see this guy had only installed a pond pool during this past summer and was putting it out there to people in the area that they could use the pool.

I thought to myself, what a great idea, myself and other people in the community responded to the post.

A few weeks had gone by and I didn't think too much more about it. I was home ane Sunday afternoon when I receive a call from this guy on messenger request if I wanted to come up over as information technology was getting close to the stop of summer.

I explained to this guy that I was doing some painting just would try and become there as information technology was a nice day.

I managed to finish off my painting in time to go there in the afternoon. Now I know on reflection it was not such a cracking idea to go to a strange male'southward identify when I didn't know him but I didn't experience that I would be unsafe).

He opens the door and I go in, this guy lives in a unit and had a iii seater couch on one wall and a unmarried chair opposite, naturally I sit down on the unmarried chair, he says 'you tin come and sit down over next to me'. I tell him I am comfortable sitting where I am and that I don't like sitting right adjacent to someone equally it hurts my neck. Anyway, he'due south a prissy enough guy and I didn't go over there expecting it to be a date!!! (I don't know how I was then naive), this is what he thought it was!! Finally, I direct the attention to become for a swim, simply by this stage I must admit it was beginning to cool down and this stupid puddle was not warm at all!! So I didn't really have much involvement in staying there for likewise long. As I am about to get out this guy puts his artillery around my waist and kisses the back of my neck!!! OMG I get out of the puddle just like I say I didn't feel similar he was going to exercise anymore, he'southward simply a lonely guy looking for love.

I did end up staying for dinner and it was not unpleasant but I knew that there was no way I would exist interested in anything more than a possible friendship with this guy. We all know there has to be some kind of a spark for anything to fifty-fifty consider moving forrad with.

The next 24-hour interval, I wake up and he's sent a message with all this stuff on it 'I think my mum has sent an angel from heaven', 'hello my beautiful swimming daughter', I guess the truth is if I thought this guy was someone I was interested in it might of been OK but it freaked me out big time. I was worried Mr Swimming Guy might turn into Mr Stalking Guy, simply luckily this guy got the message pretty quickly and luckily for me 'I haven't heard from him again'…..

Side by side!!!! and there volition exist some more NEXT'S as I am on the merry go circular of dating, just the good news is that like Mr Swimming Guy and all the other tossers out there, it's fodder for my stories.

Happy dating.

J 20

OMG I thought I would give the adept sometime dating apps another try. Please if someone with any sense can let me know why do I keep bothering thinking I volition go a different consequence I would love to hear from you!!!

I think many of you (men and women) out in that location can chronicle to the latest round of dating disasters.

This is unfortunately what I found yet again.

Outset of all, so y'all understand what my state of affairs is similar now, my 2 kids are pretty much gone and I am definitely not 1 of those helicopter mums who carries on virtually them not being here and feeling like I take to reinvent myself, I already have a full life including my kids but have lots of other things that become on in my life. However, when y'all spend every single night either watching Netflix or going out solitary (well not alone with gfs simply not a partner) it gets a bit old, particularly for us extrovert types, we similar a bit of time alone simply and so nosotros start to miss someone to talk to. Love my girlfriends merely they tin't really do what I want……

During Easter where a lot of us accept time off work and go away, I had no plans apart from having lunch on the Friday with my friend I decided that nighttime I would try another dating app.

We move onto the kickoff date I had on the Sat night, we arranged to see at a local hotel for a beverage and if you tin picture this place was on a corner and had windows all facing out towards the road. I naturally waited inside at a tabular array, I am afterall a large girl who tin walk into a pub alone. I run across this gars walking back and forth and I was silently laughing to myself thinking I bet this is my date, I wasn't about to go out my seat to grab his attention. He finally texts me and I let him know I am within, certain plenty it'due south this same guy I saw walking back and forth, dorsum and forth, (what an idiot), why didn't he only come inside too!! Anyway, initially I idea he was OK simply certainly not an instant spark, I tell this guy that I have plans to larn Italian and alive there for a few months in the future, he's Italian background and he says 'oh well when we get married we can go and stay with Uncle then and then'……..commencement tick off the list, I ask why his spousal relationship broke up 'oh well I missed going out with my mates'……second tick off the list, thirdly, he almost high-strung on his chardonnay when I told him I'd been to my first gay wedding, third and concluding tick…..a homophobe, misogamist, desperado. NEXT …..

The second date I met this guy for coffee and initially over again I thought he was OK but again no initial spark. He certainly seemed a lot more intense, serious but open minded. He was a widower, so no ex wifes to worry most coming back onto the scene. Withal, this guy still communicated and 'spoke' with his expressionless wife.

Now don't get me wrong, I am not someone who doesn't believe in the spirit world so I was quite interested in all this conversation. However information technology wasn't until later on that I idea you know what I don't want him discussing me with the expressionless wife. He also tried to constitute a big sloppy kiss on me when nosotros left and I wasn't feeling it. So every bit a result he became another Adjacent…….

Number iii, yes I met four of them so information technology'south well-nigh done…..Again I thought this guy was a nice plenty guy, he was very open and told me lots of stories nearly himself, including the fact that he'd only just recently broken upwards with a woman. I was concerned well-nigh this initially equally I thought is he ready to just move onto some other relationship, his last relationship had lasted nearly six months. Anyway, I did sit with him a couple of hours and thought aye he's worth a second date. These days I just sit dorsum and await for them to do the work, I take learnt my lesson trying to see a man I really liked only to be let down fourth dimension and fourth dimension once again and and then to find out all along he's married (that is a weblog for another time)…..getting off runway here……I will end off number three afterward I tell you about number four.

Number four, I arranged to encounter him on the Friday night, I met number three on the Wednesday. I wanted to see number four as I felt that he could of been a better match for me. WAS I Incorrect!!! this guy was a consummate lunatic, he couldn't sit however, kept looking over his shoulder, he would ask me a question and wouldn't wait for answers, he made everything a joke, I thought to myself no wonder this guy is single he'south crazy. I tell y'all that was an hour of my life I volition never get back…….

At present we come back to number three, he was very keen to catch up with me once more, messaging me Thursday and Friday. On the Saturday morning time I got my pilus done and decided to message him to meet if he wanted to meet for a coffee. He was keen to come across again, nosotros sit downwardly and he starts talking and telling stories over again about him!! Finally he starts request me more than most my life. I do admit that even before I met this guy I was concerned he might have an issue with drinking. He tells me that he had lost his drivers licence not that long ago, he wouldn't divulge exactly for how long only I read between the lines and realised it was for at least 12 months, this was my first tick of no. Secondly and this was the real clincher for me, I already thought he was too needy after wanting to find someone so quick after the most recent relationship. He started telling me near how one nighttime his ex pulled the 'race card' on him, y'all run across we were talking virtually racism and he made a annotate to this woman about n_ _ _ _ _ _ s, his excuse is that he must of had a few too many wines. To make matters even worse her ex husband is African. I simply couldn't believe that someone in this 24-hour interval and historic period would think that someone wouldn't have a trouble with that. I told him bespeak bare, 'well just so you lot know I would of pulled you upwardly on it too'. Then this my friends was my last appointment for a while and only as the title of my blog 'never heard from him once again'.

On the Sunday morning, I idea I would have ane final look on this app before deactivating and some guy came through who goes advertisement himself that he'south looking for a relatioship. What a joke he started off asking OK questions, then eventually it'southward 'are you a good kisser, 'practise I wear lingerie', 'do I like to shower together', 'practise I wear pj'south, considering I don't LOL'. OMG what an absolute TOSSER every bit a result of these questions only one solution tin be reached Conciliate.

And then again I am off the whole matter and have now decided to have a get at learning golf, I had a lesson this morning and allow me tell you GUY CITY, who knows maybe amongst the golf playing men in that location might be at to the lowest degree ane decent single guy who wants to live a normal life. I am not just going to try and learn to see a homo it'south for me likewise, I recollect it is good exercise, a new challenge for me and social. The dating apps in all seriousness are soul destroying. I am so over everyone telling me that I attempt too hard and information technology will happen and to write down what I want, I have done all that stuff. I stay off the sites for months and so become back on as I don't meet anyone in my day to 24-hour interval life, information technology'due south really actually difficult. I would love to hear from all of your with your similar stories.

Until side by side time, happy dating, have fun. Thanks for reading tell your friends.

J xxxx

Well this seems to be the new trend these days in dating, the term 'ghosting' has get a normal part of the vocabulary when describing the magical disappearing act.

My question to all of yous fellow daters is why does someone carp to waste product their fourth dimension as well every bit mine, chatting to me, texting me for over a week and and then suddenly NOTHING!!!

  • GHOSTING THAT'S WHY!!!

The boldness is rampant amongst the dating sites. Information technology'due south but besides easy to move onto the adjacent person without any thought of how someone might feel. I know I wrote near this is my previous blog but seriously I was actually feeling a little scrap excited that maybe someone was interested in getting to know me but without any caption disappeared (ghosted me!!). The distressing affair is that in this past 3-4 weeks information technology has happened twice, both by men who are in their 50's! Information technology'due south about time they all grew up and stopped thinking virtually themselves. Be an adult and tell me you've lost interest or met someone else.

Notwithstanding, if these 'ghosters' reappear again after dating someone else who it didn't work with then guess what, I am NO SECOND PRIZE!!!

This brings me to last nighttime's engagement, I met this guy afterwards work. He turned up with bike helmet in mitt subsequently arriving on his electric bike, this is OK I am not knocking it. He then tells me all about his sailing adventures he's been on over the past 9-10 years, he shows me a pic of his view from his apartment (a very fancy suburb in the inner metropolis). I think to myself this guy probably has some serious money, although I am not impressed past that stuff but it would be nice to go sailing I must admit. He then announces he has to become as he has a coming together to nourish, again this is OK with me. Now usually and I know this is probably non the correct thing to expect but 90% of the time I get drinks paid for, on this occasion however, the pecker was split. I guess these guys who go on multiple dates would become bankrupt if they paid for everyone only seriously when this guy tells me about his fancy overseas holidays and living in a beautiful flat the least I believe he can practice is pay for wine.

There's not actually much more than to tell about this story other than the fact that I haven't heard from him once more and then far only to be perfectly honest I couldn't give a ……………..and I have for now over again deleted all my dating apps, this whole thing is exhausting and I am so ill of all these timewasters.

Happy dating and hopefully some of you out there kickoff having better luck than me. J xxx

I am going out of order from my life stories, just I don't retrieve it matters too much as this is a story virtually dating.

Of grade, I have again later not dating for a niggling while put my profile on a couple of sites. Ane of these sites has the adult female making the first move afterwards the guy has swiped and comes up as a match. I figure that this is a good concept that way I have some sort of command about the whole thing. I got very excited as I connected with a guy. I think he looks kinda hot and for over a week there was contact with him with phone calls, texts. Terminal weekend was a three day long weekend and I fully expected that I would most likely encounter this guy over the long weekend. So far NO Become! (it's Thursday now). He messaged me on Dominicus and said he was would bulletin me later, by the time Wed came I had heard cipher!!! I text him to say hullo I promise everything is ok as I oasis't heard from yous, this was sent at 11am (NO ANSWER). I then phone call him at 7pm, he then replies to this message with 'hi sorry I missed your phone call, I am at my sisters and hopefully I volition talk to you tomorrow night'……well estimate what I oasis't bothered to answer to that BS answer. I tell you lot what the hell is wrong with him? I spoke to him iv times, nosotros discovered we like the same music and travelling, he seemed really smashing and now cold as water ice. Why are people bothering to go on dating sites when they aren't serious? This is the meg dollar question I would like answer to.

This now comes to my reason of calling this blog Block, subsequently existence so pissed off about this other guy I put myself on another site that has a bit more action equally far as messages become. I put information technology on last night and when I woke up this morning at that place were 22 letters from these kind of guys.

BLOCK HEADS

What a bunch of BLOCKHEADS, consequently as far as the 22 are concerned they are all BLOCKED!!! xc% are faux profiles, I can spot them a mile away, they are all from USA, wanting someone to marry, widowed such a cliché ( don't autumn for that BS girls! ).

Anyway afterward blocking all these blockheads, this afternoon I receive a message from a rather expert looking guy who is an bodily real guy. Anyhow I know I should of been working but I was wasting time communicating with this guy, mind you he approached me so obviously liked the look of me. As the chatting is going forth he then asks me practice I take whatsoever other pictures, I tell this guy that I volition have a look as I have but recently inverse my hair colour. I then upload another picture of myself. He then responds with a statement about how he met a woman and when he met her she was size 24 and that on my profile I don't say 'what my body blazon is', I practise have information technology down as average, so apparently this douchebag can't read as well as beingness shallow. I know I could do with losing a few kilos but I am certainly no size 24. I of course took peachy offence to this annotate as my photos can clearly tell that I am non that size. Besides what the hell is the deviation, if I am a practiced person why should it matter? I reply with 'I am not size 24' and estimate what 'haven't heard from him over again either!! But conspicuously he has been BLOCKED!!!

Block my new favourite feature of the dating apps!!!

Happy dating out there with all the toads and timewasters.

Every bit I am certain y'all can tell I am rather pissed off with these dumbarsed men!

The preference is definitely watching Netflix.

J xxx

Well after the debarcle of Greek God I idea I'd ameliorate give this dating caper some other go, no ones'due south knocking on my door!!!. So one time once more I went onto 1 of those complimentary dating apps. I move onto Captain Snooze, y'all will discover out why presently enough why this guy had that nickname.

I am just resting my eyes….

I call back he's handsome with a full head of thick common salt and pepper hair and a face that not only a mother could love but rather a face that yous could be seen in public with. He was very slap-up to meet me and make an impression. We met in a trendy inner urban center restaurant where he took me to dinner all paid for and already he's telling me all nigh Malta and how he's going to show it to me ane 24-hour interval…..my mind starts racing thinking all sorts of possibilities.

Sometimes I exercise dream about the whole ridiculous notion that someone will pick me upward and accept me away from all this….ha ha ha!!, as if. I sometimes retrieve of going back in time where our expectation was to be 1950'southward domestic goddesses, and enjoy the floating awareness of valium and escape reality that way. At to the lowest degree y'all weren't expected to be mother, father, driver, counsellor, chef, gardener, hot lover, keep a full time job and exist size ten. Only I wouldn't alter it for the world imagine how terrible information technology would of been in loveless marriages with no mode to escape. Unfortunately for alot of women this is yet the case even in 2019.

Afterwards this date I receive the most romantic messages telling me my 'eyes shined as vivid as the stars' OMG is this guy writing for Mills and Benefaction. As I have already said before I am a big sucker for the romance and of course loved receiving these messages, much better than getting a message asking me 'do I shave or wax'? I keep significant to respond to those messages with 'practice you wax your ballsac and crack? but I never do I merely delete them, it would requite me a expert laugh, I recollect I will do that the next fourth dimension I become i of those stupid messages.

Anyway I met Captain Snooze on a Thursday and he wanted to see me the next night and the Saturday but I already had plans. And then it was bundled to get together on the Sunday. Again we met in the aforementioned inner metropolis expanse and I remember it being a actually hot day. He calls me every bit I was finding parking and asked me to look by my car, so I did every bit he came around the corner to meet me he's conveying a huge bunch of flowers and a present…..OMG again me being the big sucker for romance was in heaven. He fifty-fifty had the good sense to bring a bucket a h2o so I could put the flowers in the motorcar without them drying out. The present was an Ecoya candle, (what woman doesn't similar candles?) the majority of us are suckers for them.

Then Captain Snooze was starting to look like he could be a keeper. The weekend I met him was over a long weekend and there'southward a big festival in the city. We went in at that place and listened the music, he was very appreciating and was putting his arms effectually my waist and nuzzling into me. I can't say that I was complaining I was enjoying myself. I was starting to call back maybe I might never have to get online ever again….unfortunately non….if it ended in that location and so this would exist the end of my blog! LOL.

It's amazing how someone just can't seem to get enough of you and ever so slowly information technology starts to dwindle…..well of course this is the case here…simply for now I will end this story adjacent fourth dimension as it's another i like Greek God too long to go on with in one blog.

Happy dating savor your weekend.

Thanks for reading

J 30

As I mentioned in the last blog about this guy there was some more to the story.

So hither goes, promise information technology's not likewise much longer….

To keep with the story, I met this guy close to a big sporting consequence where nosotros get a mean solar day off for a equus caballus race!! how good is that? Information technology falls on the first Tuesday of November and lots of people take the Monday off and make a long weekend of it. I met my Greek god close to this weekend. He asked me if I had plans and I said no and he then replies 'well yous practice now'….I was very impressed he invited me over for lunch. When I arrive he has made all this delicious greek food, spanakopita, moussaka, greek salad how can a daughter resist a human who knows how to melt! I had a not bad time and stayed in that location for nigh seven hours, we had lots to talk about and at that place was definitely a physical attraction.

This guy was the one who after beingness married a long time non feeling peculiarly sexy or desirable made me feel that mode past telling me I looked beautiful, smelt lovely stuff like that, it was very overnice to hear this.

There was a catch however to my Greek god, at that place were rules to be applied to this…..firstly he didn't desire to talk to me everyday or take whatsoever sort of daily contact…..secondly I couldn't see him on weekends every bit he e'er had his kid over who mind you lot was 14 years old (what xiv twelvemonth one-time kid wants to hang around every weekend with their father?). I was able to meet him on Lord's day nights and of course because I was and so smitten with him I went along with the rules. As time went on and I wasn't seeing him much, maybe in one case every 10-14 days I was getting very frustrated with the lack of fourth dimension spent with him and he was an hour away and I always went in that location.

Anyway, I was out with some girlfriends one night and I was telling them about him and showed his photo to them. My friend Angela said 'I know that guy, he'due south been chatting to me'….you can imagine how I felt, I was desperate to know exactly what sort of conversations he'd been having with her. I do take to remind you all that at this stage of dating I was extremely naieve and what I am about to say will have yous all thinking (what the hell is wrong with this woman!) and guess what I say information technology to myself these days….what was I thinking???

He had in fact told me that he was still online and chatting to women about their experiences about dating as he had his ain idea of writing a volume almost it, which in hindsight is exactly what I am doing now, but these are my ain stories and silly me considering I idea nosotros was and so gorgeous didn't retrieve too much virtually information technology until my friend said he was talking to her.

As it turns out, the conversation with her wasn't anything to worry about just general chit chat not flirting. My sister in police force however was furious about it all and she said let'south go him. I said what do yous mean? She said let'south set upward fake profile, we will put a immature attractive woman with some sexy name similar kittenxxx21 something like that. So that'due south what she did and sure enough eventually this guy took the allurement and started chatting to kittenxxx21, she then gave me her log in details and and then I started talking to him. The conversation started off fairly normal but and then after awhile it got around to asking about people he had met so naturally I asked and then have you been dating anyone lately where his answer was of form no he was single but y'all could alter all that…..

And so he was caught chatting to someone else and saying he wasn't seeing anyone.

So I then wrote him an email saying that I had in fact been chatting to a friend of mine and worked out she was chatting to yous as she was online dating and she said that yous said you were unmarried. I said I didn't understand what was going on as I thought we were getting forth, nosotros had and then much in common, similar humour, lots to talk about, attracted to each other and then I was confused as to why he needed to talk to other women.

In typical male communication I of grade 'never heard from him', these guys don't actually know who they are dealing with when they meet me equally I tin be a bit like a dog like a os and just want an answer. I and so tried to call him to say nosotros need to talk nearly information technology and of course he had an alibi why he couldn't catch up.

After a while you just first to forget virtually these guys who tin can't show any respect, that's all whatsoever of us desire in life, respect, for someone to be honest, if you aren't interested tell me the truth I am a big girl and although it might injure at the time at to the lowest degree I have been given respect and I can think you with fondness and not recall what an arsehole!!! As I have mentioned previously the same can be applied for us women, some women are not very respectful either the term ghosting is a popular term for people disappearing. Information technology's really not that difficult to send someone a text after a date to say 'it was lovely meeting yous, good luck with your search'. Only for someone who has been invited into your home and you in theirs and so the to the lowest degree you should look is a chat and non be ghosted.

The interesting matter about this is that this all ended in the Feb-March of the year I turned fifty and my birthday is in June, so low and behold I receive an electronic mail from this guy for my birthday!!! go figure…..so although he hadn't responded to my electronic mail he so sends me a birthday message.

He then also continued to every now and so call me at habitation, I did talk to him and have coffee with him a couple of times, only the email has never been mentioned. After a while I thought to myself what is the point of communicable upwardly with this guy every at present and then? I am non even sure why I did. He also only always calls on the landline so for all I know he could of left a few messages as I don't know anymore how to call back messages from there!! LOL I only use my mobile phone these days. This guy is one of those conspiracy theorists who just uses a landline phone he'south worried about radiation, I guess he'due south got a good point we should all exist careful most the mobiles simply seriously, this guy hasn't even got a smartphone, his telephone plan is still $10….what a loser!!!!

This is the stop of this story. Hope you enjoyed and this guy I am certain is still sitting all alone in his little business firm beingness a bachelor and loving it, not sure why he bothers going online he'south definitely not serious most meeting someone. I call up I already told y'all he's still got the same profile that'due south been there for five years. It starts off with the caption 'I'm the one your female parent warned you near'….I mean actually what was I thinking even responding to that but I at the time found the profile rather agreeable and thought he had a skilful sense of humour which is what I dear in men, I am someone who loves to express joy.

Happy dating and good luck to you all, hope i twenty-four hours yous find love in the sea of toads and liars.

J xxxxx

Anyone who knows me only laughs at me when I finish upward going on a date with someone from a mediterranean groundwork equally my ex is from a Greek background. I practise find myself fatigued to these kind of guys, not that information technology really matters what the background, but it'southward simply funny that a few of them I have dated accept been Greek, Maltese, Italian; must exist my flawed perception of them being romantic that sucks me in!!! But as we all know romance is expressionless in the water these days and so it doesn't affair where they come from, the majority still haven't heard of a dictionary to await upwardly the pregnant of the word. (**Apologies in accelerate to all the gorgeous men out there that did in fact call up Valentines Day and are romantic, I exercise know they exist as friends of mine accept them).

I am not going to tell all of the story as it's too long for one blog, I dated this guy for most three months. Not that you lot tin say information technology was iii months, the bodily time spent with this gars was probably only a couple of weeks. This was the first of the timewasters!

After the disaster of my online scammer (probably from Nigeria or who knows where they are these days) I decided to requite it all away for a few months. I wasn't getting any attending on the site that the potential scammer was on anyway and I started to think maybe I had two heads or something. I didn't think I looked too bad for a belatedly 40'south female with all her teeth!! and a job.

The idea to try some other dating site was put to me past my cute young tennis team mate 1 dark when I was talking about how I hadn't been on one date in near 14 months of being seperated. She just couldn't believe it so she suggested this site that is free and permit me tell you information technology was like zippo else, I was getting messages left right and heart. Unfortunately well-nigh of them with heads that only their mother's could love……I know you are thinking I am mean but seriously I accept some taste! LOL

There was one who particularly defenseless my eye he was in my opinion handsome with dark optics, olive peel and gorgeous!! We communicated for about six weeks before I finally met him (I now know that I would never waste my fourth dimension for six weeks before meeting someone!!), clearly this guy was talking to god knows how many other women. Y'all definitely know the signs of what'south going on afterwards then many years in this caper.

So, it was bundled to meet on a Sunday afternoon at 3pm. I arrived and he was already sitting at that place, when I came towards him he stood up and held my chair out fix for me to sit down downwardly, I was very impressed with this. The waiter came and I of course ordered a wine (permit'southward face information technology, it was close plenty to wine o'clock) and he ordered a coffee, when the order was made this guy felt comfortable enough to have a little dig about me ordering wine with the waiter, I enjoyed that immensely, my friends know that I am cheeky past nature so I felt at ease immediately.

This date was going very well, after about 2 hours he said he needed to go. As we left he opened the door for me and so walked on the street side (a very old fashioned and gentlemanly thing that men used to exercise) and held my hand, I tell y'all I was in sky. I am an former romantic by nature and this I am told is what gets me into trouble as I am dreaming most what happens in a Hollywood picture show (Hollywood has a lot to reply for!!) and permit's face it, it's all a fantasy …..enough ranting for now at least! ……anyhow moving on…..he then walks me to my car and gives me a large kiss….. I felt smitten by this guy but niggling did I know then that he is only another one who I 'NEVER HEARD FROM HIM AGAIN'!!! LOL Although there is more to the story, he was not quite a complete never heard from him again and so I probably shouldn't say that just I will continue with this later.

Until then, bask the weekend.

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Well let's start at the beginning.

When you lot have been in a long-term spousal relationship and feel like a frumpy old housewife who hasn't had attending for years information technology's very easy to lose your confidence and think that y'all are no longer attractive or desirable to the opposite sex so when someone comes forth that makes you lot feel similar that once more, information technology's difficult not to get excited about the possibilities.  Especially when you thought that side of your life was over which I did and to be honest I didn't even care and most women I talk to say the same thing, I take my hat off to all the people that can brand it final with one partner non an like shooting fish in a barrel feat in this day of 'I want information technology now' selfish club.

And yes, I know this is probably not taking one for the squad of sisters are doing it for themselves and that I shouldn't be worrying nearly being desirable or sexy when it comes to men but it is really for myself that I enjoy feeling this way and damn it all I similar being told that I am beautiful and sexy although these days that's been a long time since I heard that.

My ex-married man during this time didn't even alive in the state he had left with his bags packed and me with our two children who at the time were xiii and 16. They are at present 22 and 19 and they take had their share of like stories of 'never heard from him once more', god aid the young ones, if women our historic period are having a hard time it's fifty-fifty harder for the younger generation.  At least we had some experience of the erstwhile fashioned way of meeting out in bars, face up to face, this generation doesn't know annihilation dissimilar than social media and online dating and their ain set of dick pics.  So much for flowers and chocolates and romance, the male person species needs to exist given a dictionary as shortly as they can learn to read with the word romance highlighted and put in a place where they can see it everyday.

So, are you ready? This is a tale that I am sure you have heard earlier. This is just the first of many stories.

When I started this whole feel of online dating, I was and so naïve.  I started off on a site you lot need to pay for where you lot learn stamps, I paid for 24 stamps and six years later I still have well-nigh of them. I figured that because it was a site where you needed to pay, there may be a meliorate hazard of meeting someone sincere.

How this ane works is yous search profiles and ship a free 'kiss' message that are generic letters for example 'I similar the look of your profile information technology made me smile' that sort of thing, the guy and so receives information technology and he may reply with another free bulletin or if he's actually corking he uses one of his stamps to bulletin you direct through the sight, this stamp lasts for a calendar month.   Or if he's like most of them when you send a message he completely ignore you.

This item site was non skillful for my confidence at all as I sent out lots of free kisses and never got a reply from the majority, I started thinking maybe I've got two heads or something just then I realised that they are the ones with the problem, if they don't want to respond and so it'south their loss!!

You would also think that perhaps these sites may be meliorate screened for potential scammers which I was falling for big time when a very good looking human being said yeah to my buss, yippee finally some positive response.

He of class gave the typical story that us vulnerable women autumn for when starting time on the dating sites, he was working overseas, was coming to Australia in three months, his wife died and he had a 9 year onetime daughter and of course sent me the most romantic emails (all on my private email at this stage) and was gorgeous.  My sleuth of a cousin thought he sounded only a flake also good to exist true but I on the other hand existence new to all of this beingness vulnerable thought otherwise so I continued emailing him.  We searched him on facebook and it looked like a legitimate folio simply she wasn't convinced and said those photos have been downloaded from google images it's a fake person, information technology looked and so real to me.  I was at to the lowest degree smart enough to create an email accost only for this kind of corresponding and used a fake name simply I suppose these scammers could be smart enough to find me if they actually wanted to.  Anyhow, considering nosotros were corresponding electronically and on messenger, I was the one who caught him out.  This is how it happened, every bit mentioned he said he had a nine year old merely then an email came out where he talked near how both of his girls were doing well that made me suspicious.  It was so arranged to instant message each other so as this was happening one night, I was asking diverse questions nigh his weekend when he said he was out with his daughter who I might add was a different name from the one he told me previously, I then also quizzed him about his other daughter when he said I but accept the one daughter.  I then ask him the question as to why did he say in his email that 'both' were doing well, I said who are yous and I am going to video call, so of class I am sure you tin can imagine by now that he was another i who I never heard from over again.  I will acknowledge that although I was loving the emails I would never in a 1000000 years of given anyone money. This goes out as lesson to all women who unfortunately are still being bamboozled from unscrupulous scammers to never trust anyone y'all don't meet face up to face.

The story continues…..happy dating.

Janine xx

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I want to share with you all that I have been writing downwards these stories for at least the past three years even though this whole search has been going on for close to seven years! This is what I wrote initially with the idea of perhaps writing a book but I think for me who is definitely no writer doing this blog is a good style to become the story out.  This was the original beginning of what I wrote so I guess I might equally well put it out there.

Well where does one begin when of a sudden finding yourself single again after many years of marriage in your forty's.

I know the 'net' surely there must be some decent normal guys out in that location!

I am here to tell you that most of them are still like juvenile horny teenagers' men in their l's nearly fourth dimension they grew upwardly don't you think?

This story comes from my experiences in the dating world they are all true and hopefully yous will get as much of a belly laugh as I accept considering I tell y'all if I didn't laugh, I would cry.

The pursuit of true love is a long road to travel and maybe volition need to be travelled until I am in the nursing domicile.  Unfortunately for me I actually like men and dislike them at the same fourth dimension hence the continual search and why I probably will never give up.

With the discovery of cameras on phones well they have all get skillful in photography especially of their nearly prized possessions and equally for the videos well what a scream.  My own private porno collection.  I have enough of them to create a book as well equally videos.

When I go yet another 1 of those pics, I retrieve oh well here we go once again seen one of those earlier they all start to expect the same subsequently a while and I think how nearly sending me a photo of the caput on top of your shoulders?

**Don't worry boys your secrets are safe; I am not about to embarrass anyone in that manner.

The idea for writing this has come from my cousin who has probably not really wanted to be a sounding board we have had many a expert laugh recounting the many times that I think I have met someone decent merely then to never hear from him once more without of class any explanation.

When I was speaking to her on Valentine'southward 24-hour interval almost how the man in my life was more interested in putting a water characteristic in than spending the day with me or dinner the other stories came out again well-nigh how I was speaking to another one earlier in the year who seemed interested and said I quote 'don't be surprised to receive random calls' only never to hear from him again either I laughed and laughed and she said you have to go started on that book write it all downwards and the catch cry of never heard from him again became the idea for the title.

This championship says it all and to be fair, the title could also be 'Never heard from 'her' once more as it happens to men too.  I think the problem for all of u.s. is the internet is similar a lolly shop as well many to cull from so unless someone walks in that door who blows your mind you just go oh that 1 lost its flavour, I'm bored with the gustatory modality.